In our society today, it is quite alien to see people within the age range of sixteen and above without being into romantic relationship all in the name of courtship. Some people see it as a means of searching for“MR RIGHT” or“MISS RIGHT’’, while others are into it just to feel among.
This method of searching for “MR RIGHT” OR “MISS RIGHT” has proven to be ineffective over the years as people who claim to have known themselves for a very long time as a result of courtship eventually break up at the peak of their relationship or few years after marriage. So what then is the use of going into such relationships?
As Muslims, we understand that the Western kind of courtship is prohibited for us. However, we are allowed to go into khitbah (i.e. courtship not more than a year) without any romantic relationship. This is to serve as a means of knowing about one’s intended spouse and preparation for nikaah. As a result, all Muslims who are not ready for nikaah are expected to be single.
However, it’s not all about being single , the issue is being uprightly different from others; it’s not also all about keeping yourself for your intended spouse but portraying good manners in preparation for your life contract.
Being single but different is all about raising your head high amongst the chaste ones and adopting exemplary character that will make you a role model amongst the stained characters. You don’t have to live to impress humans as they would never be satisfied but Allah who is your creator.
Almighty Allah has given us the guidelines on how to live our lives in a way that we shall be safeguarded from the evils of the world. He commanded us to be modest in our dressings,lower our gaze and speak with humility. From here we can deduce that as Muslims we need to portray a high level of good manners.
Remember: The way you portray yourself determines the way you will be assessed and approached.